Ten years ago, everyone’s default was to rubber up and be safe. If a guy asked you to fuck him, you reached for the condoms and lube. After the almost universal adoption of PrEP (some figures indicate more than 85 percent of casual sex players take the pill whether poz or neg), most now want to play bareback. The default darkroom position has switched 180-degrees to raw. But there are many guys who still want to play safe. Don’t assume that a guy wants bareback. Have condoms with you and be prepared to use them. And don’t be shocked or walk off if a guy asks for safe or puts a rubber on your dick. Throughout the 80s, 90s, and 00s we had great safe sex with rubbers. It was horny and felt fucking good. So fuck raw/safe – just fuck often, long, and hard and get the agreement of all parties.